Is your child struggling with making decisions for fear of being wrong? Or choosing what someone else might choose? Does your child seek affirmation from her teacher when problem solving?
Children who are challenged with making decisions struggle with self-doubt and low confidence. As parents, we need to empower our children with effective decision making strategies. It’s up to us, to model the process while helping them understand the mechanics of decision-making. Building a decision-making foundation early in childhood contributes to raised confidence levels and an increased development of self-advocacy skills.
As adults, we tend to make our own decisions by balancing pro and cons, pondering alternatives and conclusively deciding. Sometimes our choices may not have turned out the we wanted and we comfort ourselves with assurances of “I did the best I could at the time, given what I know.” Our routine decision making and reflective acceptance is an ongoing process and one we must empower our children with.
By breaking down the decision making process into 5 basic questions, children learn how to make independent choices. You can begin modeling decision making when deciding about dinner by asking and answering the 5 questions.
1. What are my choices? Cooking or going out
2. What are the benefits & consequences of my choices? Time, money, energy
3. What supports, resources or person do I have available to help? Help with clean up, help with prepping, not enough help
4. Assess after, was it the right choice? Was the money spent worth it. Could I have cooked?
5. What did I learn from my choice? Plan earlier or Good decision
The 5 Asks to Decision Making
1. What are my choices?
2. What are the benefits & consequences of my choices?
3. What supports, resources or person do I have available to help?
4. Assess after, was it the right choice?
5. What did I learn from my choice?
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